Why wasnt monique able to see jordan's abuse?

Gerald's mother Monique had numerous problems. She loved him, but seemed to be consumed with the problems in her own life. Why was Monique not willing or able to see Jordan's abuse of Angel? How realistic do you think Monique's reaction is?

I think Monique was just not willing to see Angel’s abuse. She struggled a lot, and didn’t want to face the truth. She called them liars, because she was afraid of more loss. She was afraid of losing her husband and basically her life. She wouldn't have been able to handle the fact that she allowed Angel to be abused, she did nothing so in a way it is her fault. She had created a false life for herself, she had been so very desperate to create a new life for herself. She was desperate to have a happy life she says to Gerald when he protests Jordan’s return  “Let’s see if we can all work together to make this a happy family once again.”  Then Gerald asserts that it never was a happy family. Gerald is completely right and she needs to hear the truth, however she won’t accept it. She defends Jordan all the time justifying him, and always lets him have his way.